Marriage is a journey of highs and lows, but sometimes it’s the moments that seem messy that truly define a relationship. If you ever find yourself receiving a text from me that says, “If I text this to you, it means my husband is out there being messy as hell, but I’m also proud of him,” don’t panic. It’s just my way of expressing a unique mixture of admiration, frustration, and understanding for the person I’ve chosen to share my life with.
The Messy Side of Love
Every marriage has its share of ups and downs, but some moments stand out in their sheer chaos. It could be something as simple as him forgetting an important anniversary date, or perhaps it’s something bigger—like his inability to follow through on a promise. For some people, these moments are the breaking points. But for me, they’ve become part of what I love about him.
When I say he’s “being messy,” I’m not just talking about physical clutter or a messy garage (although let’s be real, those are also factors). I mean the emotional rollercoaster that comes with his spontaneous decisions, his quick wit, his willingness to challenge the status quo—even when it’s inconvenient for those around him. Sometimes it’s irritating, but I’ve learned to embrace it.
The Messiness is Part of His Charm
What people often fail to realize is that the messiness I’m referring to isn't necessarily a bad thing. My husband is someone who goes after what he wants with a certain tenacity, whether it’s pursuing a new business idea, getting involved in community events, or taking on a new hobby (even if it sometimes leads to chaos). His messiness is a reflection of his passion, his boldness, and his refusal to live a life of complacency.
The truth is, if he wasn’t messy in the way he is, I’d probably be bored out of my mind. It's easy to get caught up in perfection, to live a life that's clean and orderly. But what’s the fun in that? Messiness is proof that he's out there, living, trying, and often failing—but also learning, growing, and succeeding. It’s a reminder that nothing great comes from perfection.
Pride in the Imperfect
So, when I text “messy as hell, but I’m proud of him,” I’m sharing something deeper than just a critique. It’s an acknowledgment that his imperfect nature is something I celebrate. Every messy decision, every disorganized moment, is a testament to his authenticity. He's not trying to live up to an idealized version of himself; he's being real. And that’s something I can’t help but admire.
We all have our moments of failure, our messy endeavors, and our chaotic decisions. But when you truly love someone, you realize that it’s the messiness that makes them who they are—and sometimes, that’s exactly what makes them amazing. So, yes, he may be out there causing a little bit of chaos, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Conclusion
To the people who might receive that text—know that it’s a little badge of honor. It’s my way of saying that my husband might not always follow the traditional rules of life, but that’s what makes him extraordinary in my eyes. So, when you see that text, know that while things may look a bit messy on the outside, there’s a whole lot of love, pride, and respect underneath. And that’s the beauty of being married to someone who’s out there, messy as hell—but still doing his best to be the person I’m lucky to call my partner.
